AMERICAN CRUCIBLE, Part 5
As told by Arpine Babloyan
Photography & Editing by Ashia Ray
“The nicest and sweetest days are not those on which anything very splendid or wonderful or exciting happens, but just those that bring simple little pleasures, following one another softly, like pearls slipping off a string.”
SOMETHING IN BETWEEN
If I had told myself that this too shall pass, at that time I just wouldn’t believe it. I didn’t see any light at the end of the tunnel.
Knowing what I know now, I would tell those of you going through this now to try to understand what the next step is, whether it’s paying off a certain credit card or making it through the end of the month, something that would make you understand that the tunnel is not that big – there is something in between.
That will help you get a little more motivated to keep going.
BIG LITTLE THINGS
Cooking was another way to relax without spending money. I had some free points on an old credit card – and with those points I got myself a Kitchenmaid mixer and I cooked a lot.
I found some calm in following the recipe. It was just… step by step, another distraction, and it was fun and it was practical too – it wasn’t like I was golfing or something, it was a meal we were going to eat. I really enjoyed trying different recipes and using my mixer. I love that thing, I still have it.
The fact that I am half-Russian and half-Armenian left its imprint on my life. I remember growing up in a house where hospitality was cherished. My father always had friends, relatives, and even friends of friends come visit, sometimes people were out of town and needed a place to stay, and our home was always open, welcoming.
My mom always cooked and offered food to anyone who came over. Meals were a big family time, it was an opportunity for a family to come together and share news about their day – all throughout my childhood there was no TV or any other distractions during meals (although I was sometimes trying to sneak a book under the table). My grandmother lived with us for a period of time – both her and my mom were great cooks and I’ve experienced a fusion of cuisines at home.
I think these experiences influenced my love for both cooking and eating out. My parents also enrolled me in a lot of activities so I was always busy. I am trying to do the same for my daughter – even though I didn’t like some of them as a teenager, I am now grateful for having done them.
…Read more in Part 6: Always On Her Side
This session is from the Invisible Obstacles Series. Families in the Invisible Obstacles series provide a glimpse into daily life while navigating adversity. Names and locations of minors may have been changed to protect privacy. Permission & quotes attributed to Arpine B. unless otherwise specified.
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